The Hidden Forces Controlling Your Life - Part 1

Choosing to Heal: The Radical Act of Facing Discomfort

Healing is a choice—but not an easy one. In fact, choosing to heal at the root level is one of the most life-changing and courageous decisions we can make, precisely because it forces us into discomfort.

And not just any discomfort—the kind we’ve spent a lifetime avoiding.

And I don’t mean the discomfort of getting up early for a workout or skipping dessert. I mean the kind of discomfort that makes your skin crawl—the kind that makes you want to check your phone, grab a snack, rewatch that show you’ve already seen six times, or say yes when you really want to say no.

Most of us don’t even realize how much time we spend running from this feeling. But trust me, we do.

 Your brain and body are not designed to make you happy—they are designed to keep you alive. Our nervous system and subconscious mind are wired for survival, not growth. They work together to ensure that the stories and beliefs buried deep within us become our truth.

And the way they do that? By convincing you that whatever is familiar is also safe.

It doesn’t matter if what’s familiar is toxic, draining, or straight-up miserable—your nervous system doesn’t care. If you’ve spent years people-pleasing, over-explaining, stuffing down your feelings, or settling for relationships that don’t meet your needs, your body sees those things as “safe” because it's what you know.

This is why healing is so hard.

Think about it: if you’ve spent your entire life keeping the peace, the first time you set a real boundary, your nervous system is going to freak out.

**You might feel shaky.

**You might feel guilty.

**You might feel like you just did something terribly wrong—even if all you did was say, “Hey, I can’t help with that right now.”

Your heart races. Your stomach clenches. You suddenly want to take it back, send a “just kidding” text, or disappear into the floor.

Why? Because your body thinks you’re in danger.

But here’s the truth: you’re not...

Survival vs. Thriving: Why Growth Feels Impossible at First

You’re just doing something new.

Something that challenges everything your nervous system thought was necessary for survival. And in that moment, you have a choice.

Do you retreat back into what’s familiar?

Or do you sit with the discomfort—just long enough to teach your body that you’re safe?

Your subconscious mind and nervous system operate on a simple principle: the familiar is safe. It doesn’t care if your familiar reality is toxic, exhausting, or unfulfilling. If you’ve spent years in self-sacrificing relationships, struggling with self-worth, or fearing rejection, your system perceives those patterns as the safest possible place for you to be—simply because they are known.

Your body is hardwired to avoid the unknown, suppress painful memories, and repeat old cycles—no matter how much they hurt you.

So when you finally decide to heal—when you decide that your pain is no longer an option—you are making a radical, rebellious choice.

You are going against millions of years of survival programming that tells you:

• Don’t go there—it’s unsafe.

• Ignore that—it’s too painful.

• Repeat what you’ve always done—it’s what we know.

  
  

And yet, despite every internal alarm urging you to turn back, something inside you calls you forward.

That part of you—the part that seeks out healing, wisdom, and transformation—is not your survival brain. It is something greater. It is the superconscious mind.

It is the part of you that instinctively knows you are meant for more.

The Heart Knows What the Mind Can’t Grasp

The crazy part?

There’s another part of you—the part that’s been quietly whispering, You’re meant for more.

That part of you doesn’t live in your survival brain. It lives in your heart.

And science actually backs this up.

The heart has 40,000 neurons, which means it can process information, hold memories, and even make decisions—before your brain even catches up. 

It’s why you just know when something is right, or why your chest tightens when something is off.

Your heart knows the way forward. The problem is, your nervous system is screaming at you to turn back.

Healing is choosing to listen to your heart even when every other part of you is begging you not to. It is no accident that the desire to heal, evolve, and expand comes from the heart.

Many spiritual traditions teach that the heart is the seat of the soul. It is one of the most mystical places in the body—one that doesn’t just pump blood but shapes our experience of reality.

The heart’s electromagnetic field extends beyond the body, affecting not only our internal state but the way we interact with the world. This is why when we make heart-centered choices—when we step into healing, love, and truth—we shift our entire experience of life.

--"Choosing soul-level healing is like willingly walking into the fire—knowing it will burn away everything false, everything small, everything that isn’t truly you. It’s the wildest, most rebellious act of self-love there is."